Kristen Ellingson

Don't settle.

Kristen Ellingson
Don't settle.

When it comes to dating I believe that it is very important to have high expectations. I pray that all of you would know your true value and potential in Christ. God wants us to be with someone who will encourage and empower us to pursue the passions that God has put on our hearts.

HAVE HIGH EXPECTATIONS.

Know that God will provide. Begin praying that He would be preparing your future spouse. Don't just settle. Ask God to reveal the different qualities you need in your future spouse. Here were some of mine..

That he is; dedicated to sharing the Gospel, hard working, intentional, protective, athletic, has a good relationship with my parents, doesn't play games with me, cares about how I feel and what I have to say, buys me cookies, is taller than me, has light hair, and anything but brown eyes. 

Some of those may seem more serious than others but that is what I wanted...and God provided.

Remember, if they do something that doesn't line up with your "list" that you should express it to them before just dropping them. For example I wanted a man who was intentional. If one week I noticed that Shane was distracted when we were together I shouldn't just say "TOO BAD, you screwed this up!" I should take it to him and calmly explain how his actions made me feel. Then base your next move on his response. A person who truly loves you will listen and want to make a change. But don't ignore those red flags.

What I hope you take away from this is that the person you are marrying will be with you FOR LIFE. Have high expectations and don't overlook red flags. God has great plans for your life; you just have to trust Him.