I want to start this post with saying that everyone has the right and ability to make their own choices; no one's life will look the same as another. In the end the only opinion that matters is God's, the Bible really shows that a Christ follower will love and respect those around them and bring honor to God in every situation. With that being said I thought it would be cool to share a little bit about Shane and my dating process!
Shane and I met November 2012 on Thanksgiving day! We talked a little bit on that day then ran into each other a few times at church then finally got the chance to hang out in the middle of December. We started off by hanging out with a group of church friends just going out to eat or going to the Mission Inn to look at all the Christmas lights! We did that for a few months while we got to know each other then just naturally knew that we wanted to spend more individual time together. We started going to each others houses and occasionally going out to dinner or the movies, typical stuff. We did that until May, Shane asked me to be his girlfriend May 19, 2013 under the castle at Disneyland. We dated for about 3 years before he asked me to marry him then we had a 6 month long engagement before we got married on June 11, 2016! It's actually pretty crazy summing that time up into one paragraph but that's how we decided to do it!
I would recommend doing something like this to anyone, it really gave me enough time to get to know who Shane really was. Before we got married I knew all the quirky things that he did, I knew where he saw his life going, how he handled laundry and dirty dishes, etc. When we got married we already knew how to work together and what to expect; nothing surprised me!
I feel like we took every step slow and that's why it was never overwhelming or scary! Obviously everyone will make their own choices but this worked for Shane & I and hopefully some of you will benefit from reading this and maybe be inspired to take your relationship slow and be patient. Enjoy your time dating because it is stinking awesome. Then when the time comes enjoy your time being married because it is even more awesome. Be open and honest with each other, it's ok to say how you feel and it's ok to say that you feel like things are moving too fast or even too slow.
Remember that whoever you are with will be there for the rest of your life. Make sure you actually like them and can work with them until you die.